Grief Counseling - The Top 5 Ways to Eliminate Grief

By Glen Russell

Firstly my heart goes out to all those who have lost someone dear. Professional grief counseling is not for everyone and there are a number of other ways you can eliminate the painful feelings of grief that you are feeling inside.

There is also the "stigma" associated with grief counseling or counseling of any type. The idea or thought of being counseled by anyone can be too much for some to bear. And this is understandable. We don't like to feel like we are emotionally "weak" or incapable of dealing with our own pain and loss.

All the techniques described below are hard-hitting. These grief counseling techniques confront the emotional pain of your grief head on, and are designed to give you back the control and power to overcome your own pain and loss. The top 5 grief counseling techniques are:

1. EFT - EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE

EFT involves tapping your fingers on meridian energy points on your face and upper body to permanently remove grief, pain and sadness. It works for everyone and it only takes a few session to permanently remove your grief and pain. For best results, seek out an experienced EFT practitioner. P.S. This technique truly works!

2. TIBETAN SOUND HEALING

This an amazing and very simple technique that can transform any negative emotion, including grief, into love in only 15 minutes. The technique uses 5 basic sounds to express the negative emotion, neutralize it, and then replace it with a feeling of love. See below for a link to five free teaching videos and learn to do this today.

3. VIPASSANA MEDITATION

This form of meditation will help you overcome your inner grief. There is a Vipassana Meditation center in just about every city of the world. You would need to attend a 10 day silent meditation retreat to achieve the benefit of this being used as a grief-counseling self-help technique. With the breathing techniques they teach you, and due to the fact that it is completely silent, meaning you are forced to be "still" and face your inner pain, this grief-counseling self-help technique uncovers deep grief layers - layers you thought you never even had. Not for the faint hearted, but it is the most amazing experience you could ever have. And it is all free, including food and accommodation. They only ask for a donation to pay for the next student and it is up to you what you want to pay.

4. JOURNALING YOUR FEELINGS

This is a tried and true method of expressing your deep feelings of grief and pain. And each time you express your feelings by writing about them, your feelings of grief and emotional pain become less and less. It may sound unbelievable that writing about your feelings can make you feel better and reduce your pain, but it does!

5. HYPNOTHERAPY - EMOTIONAL RELEASE THERAPY

Deep grief and emotional pain all resides within the subconscious "feeling" mind. And EXPRESSING your painful emotions of grief is the best way to overcome your pain. When you hold onto your painful emotions, they start to build up and become repressed over time. When you start to express them, you begin to release them, one layer of an onion at a time. But you have to start with the first layer - and don't be scared!

Expressing grief and pain is a very spiritual experience and you are truly at one with God when you are doing this! A trained hypnotherapist who specializes in emotional expression of grief and pain will get you to very deep levels of emotional expression by accessing your subconscious "feeling" mind. You may need to do some ground-work or phoning around to find someone who specializes in this area - but it is definitely worth it.

Glen Russell is a spiritual counselor and teacher of metaphysics. To listen to the five teaching videos for Tibetan Sound Healing visit http://www.howtofindyourself.org/tibetan-sound-healing.html To heal and transform the 12 parts of the ego go to http://www.theego.org
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7 Comments You Must Avoid If You're Consoling a Grieving Mother - Loss of a Child

By Cherie Rickard

A mom has always thought at one time or another that it could be possible to lose a child to death but she never entertains that thought for more than a second because the instant pain that hits you is often a sneak peek into a world she never wants to imagine.

I thought it would be most helpful to help others if they are ever face to face with a mother who has lost her child. We know you want to help but please avoid these empty and hurtful statements:
1. They wouldn't want you to be sad

We know that but we are in complete devastation and although this may be helpful years down the road, it's not going to bring you a good response from a newly grieving parent.

2. She/he are in a better place

Regardless of your faith nobody no mother wants to hear her child is better off without her and that's exactly what she will hear.

3. You need to move on

Are you nuts! I can't imagine why anyone would think its OK to tell a mother this ever. We never move on. We learn to deal and live without our child in the physical word.

4. You have "living" children here that need you!

A mother is always aware of how many children she has and we never stop being a mother to all of them. Temporarily she may need some support to help during that first year. Be her other children ride to school or day out at the park.

5. You have so much to be grateful for

A good mother is always grateful for her children. If she has monetary belongings she would easily trade them all in an instant for her child back, so leave this comment alone.

6. You will see him again. She/he wouldn't want you this way
See her child again needs to be immediately or it brings no comfort to a mother who has buried her child.

Later as she has moved to the acceptance stage this wouldn't be so bothersome or unwanted.
7. You just need to keep busy

We can barely get out of bed to use the bathroom for weeks, sometimes months so don't ask her to clean her house or start a scrapbook. Instead why don't you show your love for her and clean her house for her. After a year you can encourage her to use her tragedy to help others.

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After the Funeral - Grief Counseling For Everyone

By S Matthews

When a loved one dies, we all react differently. For some people, accepting the inevitable loss of a 87-year-old much-loved grandfather following a lengthy illness is not that difficult. For others, it is an unbearable task. Similarly, some people seem to "get over" the loss of a small child in a relatively short period of time, while others never seem to recover.

For the many people who find it hard to cope with a death, grief counseling often can help them make the transition. Its goal is to help people grieve within a normal, healthy period of time and eventually resume their daily lives. Grief counseling can be a long-term process, a short-term affair or even a one-off, and can occur on a one-to-one basis or in groups.

For people for whom grief counseling is not enough, grief therapy may be the answer. It helps people with complicated or abnormal grief reactions deal better with the conflict of separation, using specialized techniques to help them eventually function again as a happy human being.

Five Stages of Grief

Psychiatrist and author Elisabeth Kubler-Ross first introduced this model in 1969 in her book On Death and Dying. She wrote it particularly for people who were dying themselves as the result of a terminal illness. However, her five steps later became identified as the five stages we all go through when someone else dies, and are now widely seen as a useful tool for people going through the grieving or bereavement process. They are:

- Denial. The first phase we all go through. Either you deny that it is happening to you or you find yourself "forgetting" that the event has happened at all, by continuing to set a place at table for the deceased, buying them a present or talking to them.
- Anger/Blaming. This stage occurs once the denial is over, when you get incensed over what has transpired and seek to lay blame. You might blame your husband for something he did "wrong", you might blame yourself.
- Bargaining. Trying to bargain for time, saying you will do this and that if the inevitable does not happen. Some people try to bargain with God to get their loved one back.
- Depression. Once you have begun the process of acceptance often you are faced with intense depression, and seemingly don't care what happens any more at all.
- Acceptance. When the depression begins to lift an acceptance of the inevitable begins, and you can begin to rebuild your life and move on.

How Grief Counseling Can Help

In today's society it's generally accepted that grieving is a normal process, but unfortunately we don't all know how to grieve. Grief counseling can help us to express our feelings and adjust to the loss. Please be aware, however, that in specific situations - such as when a child dies or a homicide unexpectedly occurs - that specialized counseling may be warranted.

Here are some basics about the grief counseling process:

- Grief counseling is specific for people who are bereaved. Grief counselors can be clergy people, trained therapists or social workers, and can work individually with bereaved individuals or in groups.
- The counseling seeks first of all for an expression of grief, and to understand that their feelings are normal and, hopefully, only temporary. It can be helpful to consolidate memories, learn how they affect us, and then move on.
- Some people feel so shocked or numb following the death of a loved one that they are unable to cope. Talking about these feelings and getting them out in the open can help them go forward.
- Sometimes there are unresolved issues between the person who is being counseled and the deceased. Counseling can help resolve them.
- As grief counseling helps consolidate feelings, it sometimes is implemented after a loss of a different kinds other than death, ie, the break-up of a relationship or the loss of a job. In many cases, the grieving process is the same. Loss of a feeling of personal safety following a trauma or even the loss of a dream many require similar counseling.
- When a child does, the two parents may deal with their loss differently - and at a different pace. Everyone grieves differently, although it can be hard for people to understand that when they are suffering the same loss. Couples grief counseling can help partners to understand each other's needs and not place blame on each other.

Many people wrongly assume that the funeral spells the end of the grieving process, when it actuality it's often the beginning. Grief counseling - and occasionally grief therapy - can help people come to terms with their loss and continue on with their lives.

Experts in the field have recognized that there is no set timetable for getting over a loss, and that it's not always important to stay strong. Everyone grieves differently, and you may feel numbness, disbelief, shock, anger, pain, fear and even physical symptoms such as headaches, chronic fatigue and panic attacks.

Getting the right support you need is paramount, not just from other family members and friends but also from support groups and professionals. Finding someone who has gone through similar trying times can help greatly, as can finding someone to talk you through the myriad changes you are experiencing.

If your grief is turning into depression, it's time to face things head on and get professional support. Treatment can lift you up throughout the mourning process, so ask for help - and get it. Coping with grief is not an insurmountable task, but it's one that many of us need help to get through.

Sarah Matthews is a writer for Yodle, a business directory and online advertising company. Find a Healer at Yodle Local or more Health & Medicine articles at Yodle Consumer Guide.

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